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She Rites's avatar

I too could write a lot on this but from the point of view of a breastfeeding counsellor and midwife rather than mother… but my short comment is focused on weaning. I’ve been around long enough to see a range of advice in this respect being ’fashionable’ a word I use deliberately. Personally I believe that the WHO advice is no less … anyway the answer for me rests on that simple idea of being naturally led - learned through attachment parenting (no matter what you think of this parenting strategy, it is informed by nature…) When a child is learning the world from its mother’s lap it creates the perfect opportunity to experience everything from a safe space - when it comes to food this means helping itself to whatever she has in front of her. This manifests as a child trying all sorts of foods (and non foods) as you say in the mouth, but doesn’t necessarily mean eating/swallowing - that comes when they’re ready… each child will be different. I was lucky enough to eventually experience this with my 3rd child, who was ‘weaned’ entirely on ‘finger-food’ ie only what he could pick up himself (which included barbecue ribs before 6 months)… A very complex subject well done for sharing such useful information Milli.

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Lisa Sherratt's avatar

How interesting! I am intolerant of dairy and gluten. When I was born (1983) they said I was born "too quickly" so rushed me off to an incubator - apparently rather than giving my Mum the chance to breastfeed I was given formula, my family has a history of dairy and gluten intolerance (my grandfather is coeliac)

I had horrible eczema as a baby and my Mum has always put it down to this first intake of a dairy as essentially my first meal when realistically I shouldn't have eaten it.

I introduced dairy when I left home for uni, at first I seemed to get away with it, but gradually over about 8-10 years I developed really bad eczema again and my asthma became debilitating, I also gained a lot of weight. I cut out gluten and dairy and gradually recovered over the space of about 6-12 months. I've tried eating it again or just lapsed in times of stress over the last 9 years and always found I quickly deteriorated so I've stopped again!

I've raised my children gluten and dairy free because my eldest used to projectile vomit if I'd had any dairy so I cut it out and thankfully that stopped! She had a tiny gluten breadstick at about 11 months old and her previously perfect skin broke out all over her arms 😭 if she eats anything accidentally now (age 8) she gets really badly blocked ears, so whilst the avoiding things is awful I think she's learning sadly that it's easier than not being able to hear!!!

It must be such a hard balance of introducing things and also allowing for the reactions that might be awful!! I'd love to know more about how the processing of food that now happens affects allergies too - I don't suffer so badly in France for example if I dare to have a pastry from a bakery as I would here!

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