You are a total inspiration Milli. I was bullied by colleagues and withdrew from the debate completely. Your bravery has given me the courage to speak out and not to be afraid. It is unforgivable that anyone feels they have the right to abuse others for their views. I salute you.xxx
I’m so pleased to see the tide is turning, especially for you, Milli. I’m so fed up of people thinking if you stand up for one groups rights (women) you must be anti- all the others. It’s so binary and unnecessary. I look forward to a more nuanced 2024!
We all like to think of ourselves as brave, but in reality most of us are only brave up to a point. When these ridiculous witch hunts have had their day, you will be one of the people who can hold her head up high and feel proud of the genuine courage you showed.
Of course the male sexual rights bullies have a generic term for women who stick up for themselves. Men are the ones who give us language and this is, above all, a battle of words. From “trans women” (as if men who want it are just a different kind of woman) to “birthing parents” (as if the only difference between a mother and a father is that one day, one of you (and it could be either) spontaneously decides to give birth, and apart from that both roles are exactly the same). All we have is logic and calm.
But you have used logic and calm to great effect Milli, and you are a great example to us all. I’m sure your daughter will tell you how incredibly proud of you she is. Just remember rejection is all part of becoming independent, and our children do it because they love us very very much. This sex obsessed society makes the whole process difficult for girls and even worse for their mothers. You are part of the change, and we love you for it.
Thanks that's so lovely. I have one daughter who is quite terfy and another who is a bit less convinced (and a little boy who doesn't need to think about it all yet!). We all still love each other though and always will. This in itself drives the TRA's bonkers hahaha. Imagine not having the same beliefs and still caring about each other and supporting each other! That's so retro! xxx
Great news Milli the tide is indeed turning and the trans ideology mask is beginning to slip. Thank you for shining your light, for your courage and for being such an inspiration to women 👏 ❤️
Hi Millie, I had no idea what you had been going through over the last few years, Ive been a bit out of / on the edge of the birth world - I've just subscribed and avidly reading & catching up - feeling very pleased there is someone still speaking up for women! All of this errasure I find incredibly, incredibly offensive - from bmj calling me a body with a vagina, i was livid, outraged, and feeling like i'm in an episode of black mirror - the world is going mad! Maybe it's an age thing, but i dont think so...
But being pre-occupied trying to change my small part of the world - and feeling alienated from people i once respected - alienated from activist circles for daring to question, bullied online myself for speaking up - called all of those same names... its a bizzare phenomena.. called right wing, by the 'lefties' for questioning - really there are no worlds - but i am preaching to the converted i know, i do have the odd debate, i wear my manchester feminist badge with pride 'woman - more than. a feeling' but feel like there is more to do and dont really know how... the language in doula / Im circles now -about those hateful TERFs (sounding really quite hateful).. ahhh reading your blog I absolutely applaude you, your courage for standing true as i mull on what my own part to play in this might be. Check out the project i've been involved with over the past few years - i will be reintegrating my birth work as it feels so combined, nd know that you also have support here at Da-a-luz south spain too. Much Love Emma xx Radical Regenerative Rewilders www.therewildproject.com
LOVE your rewild project, looks brilliant. Well perhaps if you are subscribing you will come to my writing group later this month and we can connect more. There are also lots of activist organisations such as Women's Rights Network and Sex Matters who are pushing back. xxx
Great news that you are getting the apologies as you deserve finally . I can’t make any comments at all in case I am reported . One of my colleagues who runs a village midwife franchise was reported to fraud dept at the hospital by an anonymous colleague . She was told we carried out an investigation and found no case to answer . People can be evil and are never brought to account . So it’s right that these women are .
Yes, every little bit of successful pushback is important isn't it. This is what I am coming to realise. I think I used to think oh it's just one stupid comment on my social media, just delete and move on etc. But the pushback sets precedents and makes people think. So it's always worth it xx
I too am glad the tide is turning. Standing up to bullies is difficult, often costly personally and professionally, but I think being a “Karen” is associated with more than just speaking up, e.g., racism, bigotry, and other issues that go beyond just speaking up.
I think that it's often used now against any middle aged white woman who won't take things lying down? Demanding, entitled etc. Yet more misogyny unfortunately.
You are a total inspiration Milli. I was bullied by colleagues and withdrew from the debate completely. Your bravery has given me the courage to speak out and not to be afraid. It is unforgivable that anyone feels they have the right to abuse others for their views. I salute you.xxx
Thanks. We tell our kids to tell on the bullies but then we don't always do it ourselves. Bullies hate being exposed. Good luck to you. xxx
I’m so pleased to see the tide is turning, especially for you, Milli. I’m so fed up of people thinking if you stand up for one groups rights (women) you must be anti- all the others. It’s so binary and unnecessary. I look forward to a more nuanced 2024!
Yes, I think nuance is coming back, at least in some areas! A slow thawing of the ice cold rock solid lunacy. xx
We all like to think of ourselves as brave, but in reality most of us are only brave up to a point. When these ridiculous witch hunts have had their day, you will be one of the people who can hold her head up high and feel proud of the genuine courage you showed.
Thanks that is a really lovely thing to say. I will remember that. x
Of course the male sexual rights bullies have a generic term for women who stick up for themselves. Men are the ones who give us language and this is, above all, a battle of words. From “trans women” (as if men who want it are just a different kind of woman) to “birthing parents” (as if the only difference between a mother and a father is that one day, one of you (and it could be either) spontaneously decides to give birth, and apart from that both roles are exactly the same). All we have is logic and calm.
But you have used logic and calm to great effect Milli, and you are a great example to us all. I’m sure your daughter will tell you how incredibly proud of you she is. Just remember rejection is all part of becoming independent, and our children do it because they love us very very much. This sex obsessed society makes the whole process difficult for girls and even worse for their mothers. You are part of the change, and we love you for it.
Thanks that's so lovely. I have one daughter who is quite terfy and another who is a bit less convinced (and a little boy who doesn't need to think about it all yet!). We all still love each other though and always will. This in itself drives the TRA's bonkers hahaha. Imagine not having the same beliefs and still caring about each other and supporting each other! That's so retro! xxx
Great news Milli the tide is indeed turning and the trans ideology mask is beginning to slip. Thank you for shining your light, for your courage and for being such an inspiration to women 👏 ❤️
Thanks Sofie. If I didn't have so much lovely support, I (probably) wouldn't be doing it. xx
I’m absolutely delighted to read this Milli! We’re all here cheerleading for you ♥️
Thanks Claire!! I feel it xx
Hi Millie, I had no idea what you had been going through over the last few years, Ive been a bit out of / on the edge of the birth world - I've just subscribed and avidly reading & catching up - feeling very pleased there is someone still speaking up for women! All of this errasure I find incredibly, incredibly offensive - from bmj calling me a body with a vagina, i was livid, outraged, and feeling like i'm in an episode of black mirror - the world is going mad! Maybe it's an age thing, but i dont think so...
But being pre-occupied trying to change my small part of the world - and feeling alienated from people i once respected - alienated from activist circles for daring to question, bullied online myself for speaking up - called all of those same names... its a bizzare phenomena.. called right wing, by the 'lefties' for questioning - really there are no worlds - but i am preaching to the converted i know, i do have the odd debate, i wear my manchester feminist badge with pride 'woman - more than. a feeling' but feel like there is more to do and dont really know how... the language in doula / Im circles now -about those hateful TERFs (sounding really quite hateful).. ahhh reading your blog I absolutely applaude you, your courage for standing true as i mull on what my own part to play in this might be. Check out the project i've been involved with over the past few years - i will be reintegrating my birth work as it feels so combined, nd know that you also have support here at Da-a-luz south spain too. Much Love Emma xx Radical Regenerative Rewilders www.therewildproject.com
LOVE your rewild project, looks brilliant. Well perhaps if you are subscribing you will come to my writing group later this month and we can connect more. There are also lots of activist organisations such as Women's Rights Network and Sex Matters who are pushing back. xxx
Brilliant work, Milli. So glad to read about it ❤️
Thanks Heather! xx
Great news that you are getting the apologies as you deserve finally . I can’t make any comments at all in case I am reported . One of my colleagues who runs a village midwife franchise was reported to fraud dept at the hospital by an anonymous colleague . She was told we carried out an investigation and found no case to answer . People can be evil and are never brought to account . So it’s right that these women are .
Yes, every little bit of successful pushback is important isn't it. This is what I am coming to realise. I think I used to think oh it's just one stupid comment on my social media, just delete and move on etc. But the pushback sets precedents and makes people think. So it's always worth it xx
Great news Milly and I hope your daughter’s exams go ok.
Gawd me too! It's a tense time!! xxx
I too am glad the tide is turning. Standing up to bullies is difficult, often costly personally and professionally, but I think being a “Karen” is associated with more than just speaking up, e.g., racism, bigotry, and other issues that go beyond just speaking up.
I think that it's often used now against any middle aged white woman who won't take things lying down? Demanding, entitled etc. Yet more misogyny unfortunately.