This is what makes Labour politicians bleating on about Male Violence Against Women and Girls so meaningless and sickeningly virtue signalling. We used to be safe from 98% of sex attackers when only females were allowed into women’s changing rooms - when there was even such a thing as segregated women’s changing rooms. Now women and children are exposed to 100% of them due to policies that Labour and Lib Dem Councils are implementing all over the country. That does not square with any professed desire to reduce violence against women and girls.
I wish they would be honest and just say that the desire of a few aggressive men and some deluded youngsters is too scary to oppose, and while they would like to reduce violence against women they are too afraid to do anything about it. Then we might be able to elect some politicians with courage and integrity like Rosie Duffield or Joanna Cherry who might actually do something to retain the safety we had in the last century. So much for “progressive” politics.
This issue has taught me so much about human psychology & that so many people will do or say anything that stops them being ‘thrown out of the tribe ‘ . Obviously, for our distant ancestors this could have meant literal death & some survival instinct seems to lurk in the modern brain , overpowering logic & compassion .
The biggest disappointment for me has been older , high profile women , that I’ve previously really respected pretending to be blind to the issues that this pernicious ideology creates for women & girls when we know they’ve had the experiences Milli details above but are now personally ‘safe ‘ due to wealth & celebrity status .
It’s been extremely ‘unmooring ‘ for me to listen to interviews with - for example/Sandi Toksvig or Dawn French & realise that the ‘ bonds ‘ I felt existed between us , as women understanding & supporting each other within a patriarchal society could be so carelessly destroyed by them .
What throws me into further despair is the often-used rejoinder to any discussion of women’s need for single sex spaces & services (for reasons of safety, comfort & privacy): ‘oh yes, women are right about men in these spaces, but of course trans women are not men, so women don’t need to worry’ .
I’ve just had a Twitter back-and-forth with a woman who offered a version of this inane idea.
Yes, that's the argument of course, OR the opposite eg are you saying that all trans women are violent predators etc 🙄 no THAT'S NOT HOW SAFEGUARDING WORKS!
And to add to the disturbing vibe are women's support groups for sexed activities like birth and breastfeeding who pretend that we now live in some sort of gender free world where adults can just do whatever they want without any regard for the welfare of babies (who are all actually vulnerable humans, not the fake and facetious "vulnerable" men in womanface). It's not just one's physical safety at risk now, but the mental load of being erased as a woman and as a mother and the dehumanizing effects this has. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/the-art-of-breastfeeding-part-one
I am a Grandmother and I find the whole transgender ideology ridiculous and life destroying for the young, vulnerable children who are seduced by this belief.
Men cannot be women. Women cannot be men. Thinking otherwise is a Mental Health issue, requiring compassion and support to work through.
This is what makes Labour politicians bleating on about Male Violence Against Women and Girls so meaningless and sickeningly virtue signalling. We used to be safe from 98% of sex attackers when only females were allowed into women’s changing rooms - when there was even such a thing as segregated women’s changing rooms. Now women and children are exposed to 100% of them due to policies that Labour and Lib Dem Councils are implementing all over the country. That does not square with any professed desire to reduce violence against women and girls.
I wish they would be honest and just say that the desire of a few aggressive men and some deluded youngsters is too scary to oppose, and while they would like to reduce violence against women they are too afraid to do anything about it. Then we might be able to elect some politicians with courage and integrity like Rosie Duffield or Joanna Cherry who might actually do something to retain the safety we had in the last century. So much for “progressive” politics.
They won't join the dots because that would mean denying men like Wadwha the privilege of self ID and access all areas.
This issue has taught me so much about human psychology & that so many people will do or say anything that stops them being ‘thrown out of the tribe ‘ . Obviously, for our distant ancestors this could have meant literal death & some survival instinct seems to lurk in the modern brain , overpowering logic & compassion .
The biggest disappointment for me has been older , high profile women , that I’ve previously really respected pretending to be blind to the issues that this pernicious ideology creates for women & girls when we know they’ve had the experiences Milli details above but are now personally ‘safe ‘ due to wealth & celebrity status .
It’s been extremely ‘unmooring ‘ for me to listen to interviews with - for example/Sandi Toksvig or Dawn French & realise that the ‘ bonds ‘ I felt existed between us , as women understanding & supporting each other within a patriarchal society could be so carelessly destroyed by them .
It reminds me of the Salem witch trials.
As soon as I read “older, high profile women”, I was also thinking “Sandi Toksvig”! Completely agree with your comments.
Spot on.
What throws me into further despair is the often-used rejoinder to any discussion of women’s need for single sex spaces & services (for reasons of safety, comfort & privacy): ‘oh yes, women are right about men in these spaces, but of course trans women are not men, so women don’t need to worry’ .
I’ve just had a Twitter back-and-forth with a woman who offered a version of this inane idea.
Yes, that's the argument of course, OR the opposite eg are you saying that all trans women are violent predators etc 🙄 no THAT'S NOT HOW SAFEGUARDING WORKS!
Maybe ask her how anyone is to know how a man you see walking on the street at night identifies.
Please keep up the fight!
Sex matters, and the word is “woman”!
Will do! xx
Same with "We choose the bear."
Yes. The exact same.
And to add to the disturbing vibe are women's support groups for sexed activities like birth and breastfeeding who pretend that we now live in some sort of gender free world where adults can just do whatever they want without any regard for the welfare of babies (who are all actually vulnerable humans, not the fake and facetious "vulnerable" men in womanface). It's not just one's physical safety at risk now, but the mental load of being erased as a woman and as a mother and the dehumanizing effects this has. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/the-art-of-breastfeeding-part-one
Absolutely cracking read. Thank you Milli. Spot on!
Cheers love xx
I am a Grandmother and I find the whole transgender ideology ridiculous and life destroying for the young, vulnerable children who are seduced by this belief.
Men cannot be women. Women cannot be men. Thinking otherwise is a Mental Health issue, requiring compassion and support to work through.
Thank you Milli for your voice.
Grandmothers Speak Out
Thanks. Grandmother voices vital xxx
👏 Spot on.
Thank you! x