One of the most interesting things about aging as a woman is how your relationship with the world around you changes. Older women such as me are largely invisible because we are considered "no longer fit for purpose" (as in no man is figuring out how to get our pants off). But being older means that we can listen to our inner wisdom that we may have tried to ignore at an earlier age when we were more focused on our children and others. One of the things I most admire about you "millihill", is your ability to do both at the same time.
Haha I initially read this as that I'm both desirable to men AND a Hag and I thought oh wow I've nailed it 🤣 Well maybe I'm just a Bad Mother. 😅 Gosh we women really can take our pick from a whole lot of labels can't we?! X
Hi Lucy, I find it interesting what you say about the changes in how society views us as we get older, particularly men. I am becoming quite focussed on this, in the sense that I am thinking about what I would like my identity to be as I notice myself being less and less desirable to the shallow world around me. I would like to take the reigns and write my own story with regards to being an older woman. I'm hoping for it to be a lot more positive than we are often made to believe it will be.
Turning 45 this year and just emerging from the intense mothering of a very socially anxious human I am feeling the weight of your words. I can't help but feel that I really have to get this next chapter of my life right. Honing its direction with military precision, aiming my goal at its target and holding my breath for fear of losing the mark. It feels like my last chance to do something rewarding and meaningful. I know this is irrational and assuming we can achieve great things in 10 year periods I know I have a good couple of shots left to enjoy my passions. Sending lots of love to all of you. Xx
Absolutely - book titles are so important. Hags appealed to me instantly. I love your GBLAF title - it’s gutsy. I’m drawn to Sheila Hancock’s memoir only as it’s called ‘Old Rage’... funny... my own (unpublished) memoir has the (working) title ‘Someone’s Mum’... Anyway - almost as important I think is cover design - I definitely prefer art to photography... How much say do you have? Aren’t some publishers a bit inflexible? Will you actually have the final say about titles - or covers? As far as identity is concerned I’ve always enjoyed a multitude - I think of them as a bit like Jung’s archetypes - I inhabit them as needed...
You do have some say and I think if you absolutely hated a cover they would listen. But the way I see it is I am the writer and they are the publisher with massive experience of creating book covers, so will bow to their expertise! I really hope when the time comes I can share the early book cover designs with subscribers here, that would be great fun! And I love your thoughts about archetypes that's a great way to think of it 😍
One of the most interesting things about aging as a woman is how your relationship with the world around you changes. Older women such as me are largely invisible because we are considered "no longer fit for purpose" (as in no man is figuring out how to get our pants off). But being older means that we can listen to our inner wisdom that we may have tried to ignore at an earlier age when we were more focused on our children and others. One of the things I most admire about you "millihill", is your ability to do both at the same time.
Haha I initially read this as that I'm both desirable to men AND a Hag and I thought oh wow I've nailed it 🤣 Well maybe I'm just a Bad Mother. 😅 Gosh we women really can take our pick from a whole lot of labels can't we?! X
That made me laugh!
Hi Lucy, I find it interesting what you say about the changes in how society views us as we get older, particularly men. I am becoming quite focussed on this, in the sense that I am thinking about what I would like my identity to be as I notice myself being less and less desirable to the shallow world around me. I would like to take the reigns and write my own story with regards to being an older woman. I'm hoping for it to be a lot more positive than we are often made to believe it will be.
You are unique and I think Millihill is all you need to be. We know and love you.
How lovely 🥰
Turning 45 this year and just emerging from the intense mothering of a very socially anxious human I am feeling the weight of your words. I can't help but feel that I really have to get this next chapter of my life right. Honing its direction with military precision, aiming my goal at its target and holding my breath for fear of losing the mark. It feels like my last chance to do something rewarding and meaningful. I know this is irrational and assuming we can achieve great things in 10 year periods I know I have a good couple of shots left to enjoy my passions. Sending lots of love to all of you. Xx
Absolutely - book titles are so important. Hags appealed to me instantly. I love your GBLAF title - it’s gutsy. I’m drawn to Sheila Hancock’s memoir only as it’s called ‘Old Rage’... funny... my own (unpublished) memoir has the (working) title ‘Someone’s Mum’... Anyway - almost as important I think is cover design - I definitely prefer art to photography... How much say do you have? Aren’t some publishers a bit inflexible? Will you actually have the final say about titles - or covers? As far as identity is concerned I’ve always enjoyed a multitude - I think of them as a bit like Jung’s archetypes - I inhabit them as needed...
You do have some say and I think if you absolutely hated a cover they would listen. But the way I see it is I am the writer and they are the publisher with massive experience of creating book covers, so will bow to their expertise! I really hope when the time comes I can share the early book cover designs with subscribers here, that would be great fun! And I love your thoughts about archetypes that's a great way to think of it 😍