Yay and about time Milli! What you said about yourself was true (loss of income, etc.), but it's so much bigger than that. Because every time the "be kind" brigade trots out their old chestnuts ("everyone deserves to live as their true self" etc.) it's not just individuals such as yourself that lose, it's every woman, every mother and every child as well. Because you can't fix misogyny by harming bodies with wrong sex hormones and mutilating surgeries. This sort of forced coercion is not healthy for anyone and forcing us to participate in chanting the mantra that trans rights trump women's rights is what you find in every cult.
Agreed, and one of the great mysteries to me is why the 'natural birth' / breastfeeding bunch are so captured? Don't have an injection to make your placenta come out but do take hormones every day for the rest of your life? How do they square this?
As a retired (radical) midwife I puzzle over this too. The only thing I have found so far is that it is women who believe in sovereignty of their bodies and themselves as ultra-individuals that tend to inhabit the natural birth world including a lot of us ‘on the neurodiverse’ spectrum I suspect... with this deeply held concept and a little bit of PDA (pathological demand avoidance - a trait of autism etc) these women tend to be drawn to challenge the status quo. I was an art student in my youth, a Punk a New Romantic - as a fashion student i revelled in looking and being different - it was my Nat default. I have wondered if I would’ve been captured by this ideology if young now but fortunately I have always had a deeply held spiritual and bodily view of myself - despite this I do not separate as you suggested body and soul - for me my soul is my body now... it just isn’t only that or that forever. Writing blogs like this are not wasted Milli - it’s therapeutic (not therapy) and enables you to clear your mind for your other writing.
Two more questions to go with the excellent ones you are asking: the most feminine 'proving' thing a body can do is grow a baby so if you are "really a man" why are you doing this and how can the complete artifice of living as trans be considered an "authentic" life? The cognitive dissonance must be overwhelming.
Thank you for posting the entire conversation. I found it very instructive and I may crib from your arguments when I’m trying to explain what’s happening to all those who aren’t really paying attention or insist on this “leading with love and kindness” BS.
I’m a mom to a ROGD kid (girl, now 19) in Canada, so there are lots of these folks around and (God help me) Pride month is nearly upon us.
(Just became a paid subscriber and proud to support your work.)
Yay and about time Milli! What you said about yourself was true (loss of income, etc.), but it's so much bigger than that. Because every time the "be kind" brigade trots out their old chestnuts ("everyone deserves to live as their true self" etc.) it's not just individuals such as yourself that lose, it's every woman, every mother and every child as well. Because you can't fix misogyny by harming bodies with wrong sex hormones and mutilating surgeries. This sort of forced coercion is not healthy for anyone and forcing us to participate in chanting the mantra that trans rights trump women's rights is what you find in every cult.
Sorry Ute, but you can't change sex and telling children they can is never justified. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/vulnerability-and-victimhood-what
Agreed, and one of the great mysteries to me is why the 'natural birth' / breastfeeding bunch are so captured? Don't have an injection to make your placenta come out but do take hormones every day for the rest of your life? How do they square this?
As a retired (radical) midwife I puzzle over this too. The only thing I have found so far is that it is women who believe in sovereignty of their bodies and themselves as ultra-individuals that tend to inhabit the natural birth world including a lot of us ‘on the neurodiverse’ spectrum I suspect... with this deeply held concept and a little bit of PDA (pathological demand avoidance - a trait of autism etc) these women tend to be drawn to challenge the status quo. I was an art student in my youth, a Punk a New Romantic - as a fashion student i revelled in looking and being different - it was my Nat default. I have wondered if I would’ve been captured by this ideology if young now but fortunately I have always had a deeply held spiritual and bodily view of myself - despite this I do not separate as you suggested body and soul - for me my soul is my body now... it just isn’t only that or that forever. Writing blogs like this are not wasted Milli - it’s therapeutic (not therapy) and enables you to clear your mind for your other writing.
Two more questions to go with the excellent ones you are asking: the most feminine 'proving' thing a body can do is grow a baby so if you are "really a man" why are you doing this and how can the complete artifice of living as trans be considered an "authentic" life? The cognitive dissonance must be overwhelming.
Hi Milli,
Thank you for posting the entire conversation. I found it very instructive and I may crib from your arguments when I’m trying to explain what’s happening to all those who aren’t really paying attention or insist on this “leading with love and kindness” BS.
I’m a mom to a ROGD kid (girl, now 19) in Canada, so there are lots of these folks around and (God help me) Pride month is nearly upon us.
(Just became a paid subscriber and proud to support your work.)
Thanks, much appreciated. Hope you have found some good support with your daughter. Look forward to chatting more here xx
Hello Milli, To let you know that I support you every step of the way! Love from Sue
Thank you Sue that means a great deal. xx